The 69 position is a sexual position where two partners simultaneously perform oral sex on each other. The name comes from the way the bodies are positioned: each partner's head is near the other's genitals, forming a shape that resembles the number 69.
It can be done in two main ways:
1. Side-by-Side 69 (Most Common & Comfortable)
- Both partners lie on their sides, facing opposite directions.
- Each person’s face is at the other’s crotch.
- Advantages: Relaxed, good for longer sessions, easier on the neck, great for mutual pleasure without one person bearing weight.
2. Top-and-Bottom 69 (More Athletic)
- One partner lies on their back.
- The other partner lies on top, face down, in the opposite direction (like inverted missionary for oral).
- The top person’s genitals are over the bottom person’s mouth, and vice versa.
- Advantages: Deeper access, very intense visually and physically.
- Disadvantages: The top person can get tired quickly, harder to breathe if weight isn’t supported on elbows/knees.
Variations
- Standing 69 – One partner holds the other upside down (very strong people only).
- Seated 69 – One sits on the edge of a bed or chair, the other straddles their face upside down.
- Queening + 69 – One partner sits on the other’s face while leaning forward to give oral.
Why People Love 69
- Simultaneous pleasure — both giving and receiving at the same time.
- Very intimate and balanced (no one is “just” giving or receiving).
- Great for people who enjoy oral sex a lot.
- Can be playful, competitive, or deeply connecting.
Tips for Better 69
- Use pillows under the bottom partner’s head or hips for better angles.
- Communicate — it’s easy to get overstimulated; say if you need slower/faster/softer.
- The person on top should support their weight on knees/elbows — don’t just collapse.
- Match rhythms when possible; some couples take turns focusing instead of going 100 % at once.
- Keep hair tied back to avoid it getting in the way (or in someone’s mouth).
It’s one of the most popular oral-sex positions worldwide because it feels mutual, intense, and a little playful.
