The lotus position is an intimate, face-to-face seated sex position that feels like a slow, passionate embrace with penetration. It’s often associated with tantric sex because of the deep eye contact, synchronized breathing, and full-body connection.
Basic Setup
- The penetrating partner sits cross-legged (full lotus or half-lotus style, like in yoga).
- The receiving partner sits on the giver’s lap, facing them, and wraps their legs around the giver’s lower back or waist.
- Both partners wrap their arms around each other (like a mutual hug).
- Penetration happens while sitting upright—usually vaginal or anal.
Common Variations of lotus position
Half-Lotus (Easier Version)
The bottom partner sits with only one leg crossed and the other leg bent or extended—much more comfortable for most people.
Cradle Lotus
Bottom partner leans back slightly and uses their arms for support while the top partner holds them close.
Rocking Lotus
Instead of fast thrusting, partners rock or grind slowly together—great for clitoral or perineal stimulation.
Reclined Lotus
The bottom partner leans all the way back onto pillows or the bed while keeping legs wrapped around, turning it into a deeper-penetration version.
Why People Love It
- Intense eye contact and kissing
- Feels incredibly intimate and romantic
- Easy to synchronize breathing (classic tantric move)
- Great for slow, sensual sex rather than hard pounding
- Clitoris gets constant pressure from grinding
- Both partners have free hands to touch everywhere
Tips for Comfort and Pleasure
- Put a pillow or folded blanket under the bottom partner’s butt or thighs if hips are tight.
- Start in a regular seated straddle, then slowly cross the legs once you’re already connected.
- Use lube—there’s a lot of skin-on-skin friction.
- Rock or grind more than thrust; big movements are hard in this position.
- Try adding a small vibrator between bodies for extra clitoral/perineal stimulation.
Lotus is less about athletic thrusting and more about feeling completely wrapped up in each other—perfect for long, connected, eye-gazing sex sessions.
