The missionary position is a face-to-face sex position where one partner lies on their back while the other partner lies on top, typically chest-to-chest. It’s often considered the “classic” or “standard” position.
Basic Setup
- The receiving partner lies flat on their back with legs spread or slightly bent.
- The penetrating partner lies directly on top, supporting their weight on their elbows, forearms, or hands (or sometimes fully resting on the receiver).
- Penetration happens with the top partner thrusting.
Common Variations of missionary position
Legs on Shoulders (Deep Missionary)
Receiver’s legs are lifted and placed on the giver’s shoulders for deeper penetration and a different angle.
Legs Wrapped Around
Receiver wraps their legs around the giver’s waist or back—great for closeness and controlling depth.
CAT (Coital Alignment Technique)
The top partner shifts upward so the base of the penis/clitoris rubs against the receiver’s clitoris with each thrust. Excellent for clitoral stimulation.
Pillow Under Hips
Placing a pillow under the receiver’s hips or lower back tilts the pelvis and changes the angle—often makes G-spot or prostate stimulation easier.
Legs Closed (Tight Missionary)
Receiver keeps legs mostly together while the giver straddles or lies on top. Creates a tighter sensation.
Why People Like It
- Maximum eye contact, kissing, and full-body closeness
- Easy to whisper, touch, or hold each other
- Works for vaginal or anal sex
- Receiver can control depth by bending knees or pushing back
- Very beginner-friendly and low-effort for both partners
Tips for Making Missionary More Exciting
- Add a vibrator on the clitoris or perineum
- Use a cock ring or wearable vibrator
- Receiver can arch their back or grind upward
- Try slow, deep thrusts instead of fast ones
- Hold hands above the head for a light dominance/submission feel
Missionary is simple, intimate, and endlessly customizable—definitely not “vanilla” if you play with the angles and rhythm!
